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I’m Paul.

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About me

I offer counselling from my practice based in my home in Chertsey, Surrey (close to St Peter’s Hospital and Junction 11 of the M25). I am local to Ottershaw, Virginia Water, Staines-upon-Thames, Egham, Shepperton, Chobham, Woking, New Haw, Addlestone, Weybridge and West Byfleet.

I offer non-judgemental, confidential and supportive counselling which focuses on my client’s specific needs and issues.

My experience working in both education (as a primary school teacher) and as a funeral director means I am aware of the stresses and pressures of demanding and emotionally challenging professions.

I believe that counselling can give us an insight into the way we behave and help us to get in touch with our feelings and emotions. The things we were taught and learnt as children and our early relationships can influence us as adults causing us distress and upset. Being able to explore the past as well as present-day feelings in a non-threatening environment can help to make sense of our lives and so live our lives in a more meaningful way.

I work one-to-one with adults and young people. I offer both short and long term counselling.

For many of us, not thinking about those ‘difficult’ things can help us get through the day. These ‘difficult’ things might be unpleasant or frightening childhood memories. There may be events from our past that we find deeply shaming. We may have unresolved feelings about another person or regrets over the things we might have said.

It can be hard work trying to keep these feelings suppressed. Doing so can lead to anxiety, low self esteem, obsessive behaviours, depression and an overwhelming sense of shame.
Lots of us find that counselling provides an opportunity to explore our feelings in a safe, confidential and supportive space.

Some people find that a few sessions of counselling are sufficient; others use the sessions to explore feelings and ways of being. The journey we make together in counselling can be scary, sad and tearful, but can also be exciting, funny and liberating. New ways of being can be explored; the opportunity to be with another person who is a companion not an instructor, provides an environment where change can take place. This can happen suddenly or over a longer time period.

Whatever our age we can still change; we can still discover things about ourselves; we can surprise ourselves with our strengths, our resilience and our willingness to get through.

It can be a relief to share our fantasies, dreams and aspirations knowing that they will be received non-judgmentally; all too often others shut us down when we want to be heard. We soon learn to shut down as our feelings and desires are seen as off limits by others. This leads to isolation and a sense of being disconnected from others. It can also be helpful to discuss fetishes such as Kink, B.D.S.M., A.B. and various other things that stimulate us.

I believe that life is not binary and that we are not binary; I work with and believe in diversity. I have worked with gay, bi and questioning/queer clients. I also work with Trans clients.
Counselling can help to reflect on the way we relate to others; we can explore intimacy, boundaries and the sort of relationship we want to have.

For the past two years I have worked one day a week as a voluntary counsellor working with bereaved clients at the Woking and Sam Beare Hospices.

  • I am experienced in working with people who are hard of hearing and am ‘Deaf Aware’. The room I work in is peaceful, comfortable, safe and well lit.
  • I have some basic Sign Language (Sign Supporting English) and have used a ‘Total Communication’ approach with young people.

Please contact me to discuss how we could work together with the issues and challenges that you may be facing at this time.

I am a Counsellor/Psychotherapist and a registered member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (Registration Number: 340886). I am committed to working to The Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions
https://www.bacp.co.uk/events-and-resources/ethics-and-standards/ethical-framework-for-the-counselling-professions/

Qualifications

Professional Qualifications:

  • BEd (Hons) Environmental Studies (5-12 years) and Early Childhood Education (3-5 years)
  • Diploma in Funeral Directing
  • Foundation Degree (FdSc) in Humanistic Counselling (The University of Greenwich)
  • British Deaf Sign Language Level One

Personal Approach

As a member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, I am committed to working to The Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions.

My counsellor training means I work in an integrative way and so can use an approach appropriate to your needs.  I work using the counselling models of Person Centred, Gestalt and Existential.

I work in a non-judgemental way and place emphasise on the strength of the therapeutic relationship that can bring about a change. I offer both short and long-term work.